Rest In Peace, Mom: Carolyn (Kay) Agnes Voges Etienne (1935-2018)

After 60 years of marriage and 82 years of life, mom’s journey of faith reached its goal Sunday evening around 7:30pm. I think she must have scripted the ending.

By God’s providence, I was already in Southern Indiana rather than Alaska when we put her in the hospital Friday evening.  After approximately a nine year battle with Alzheimer’s, and a thyroid crisis, she went into a comatose-like state, and was unable to communicate anymore. But, the human heart at the core of our being, surely allowed her to be aware of the presence of the entire family as we gathered around her.

We surrounded her with love and prayers during the final two days of her life.  We told stories, laughed and cried, embraced and said our goodbyes.  It was a sacred moment, and one I’m sure would have pleased mom very much.

There are many treasures in life, but none as precious as the love of family and the faith in Jesus Christ that undergirds it all.  Mom’s faith was certainly the driving force of her life, and the adornment of the home she created.  As she learned her faith from her mom, she passed it on to us, and through her witness of life, brought many others into the warmth and compassion of Jesus.

Our home was always open due to her heart which attracted so many.  Whether she was home, in church, or at her desk of Dad’s State Farm Insurance office, people would regularly stop by to say “Hi” and very often share the ups and downs of their lives.  Mom always had time to lend an understanding ear and a supportive shoulder.  And, yes, there was generally some advice offered as well!

Besides coming from a large family, and creating one of her own, mom also had many friends, and an uncanny ability to stay in touch with them all.  She loved having the family at home, and any excuse would do for bringing people together for a meal.  I cannot imagine the number of impromptu dinners she pulled together – and at many different hours of the day and night.

Our home was a magnet for most priests and nuns who were anywhere in the vicinity.  Mom and dad were also members of a Catholic Family Movement begun in the 60’s and from that point on, there were so many family gatherings, with all kinds of games, food, and entertainment.  She was a master maker of memories!

Perhaps one of the things I will remember most is her love for music, and the countless hours we spent around the piano.  From a young age, I remember our home as being filled with music.  Mom also played piano and organ for the church and sang in the choir.

I’ll close with the official obituary and a slide of a few pictures. Please continue to pray for the repose of mom’s soul, and accompany our family in these coming days with your prayers.  Know of our gratitude for all of you that have been a part of this amazing woman’s life.

Peace,

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Carolyn Etienne, 82, of Tell City, IN, passed away peacefully on Sunday, January 28, 2018. She was born July 12, 1935 to the late Hubert and Agnes (Evrard) Voges.

Kay was married to Paul Dennis Etienne on June 1, 1957.  She and Paul were life-time members of St. Paul Catholic Church in Tell City.  She was educated at the Academy of the Immaculate Conception in Ferdinand and continued her studies at Indiana State University in Terre Haute. She was a homemaker and mother while raising her young family and later served as office manager at the State Farm office where her husband, Paul was agent until June 1994.  She was the first female member of the Tell City Chamber of Commerce and a member of the Daughters of Isabella.

Her large family of origin, and life as wife, mother and grandmother and friend are the hallmarks by which she will be remembered.  She loved entertaining and socializing and her home was always open and the focus of many celebrations.  She loved theatre and was a cast member in many Tell City summer play productions.  She was an accomplished pianist, organist and choir member.  She enjoyed music, gardening and the outdoors.
She is survived by her husband, Paul, and her children:  Fr. Bernie Etienne, Archbishop Paul Etienne, Rick (Connie) Etienne, Sr. Nicolette Etienne, OSB, Fr. Zach Etienne and Angie (Jim) Ward.

She will be missed by her grandchildren: Eric, Elizabeth (Cory), Stephanie, McKenzie (David), Madison, Luke, Garrett, and Justin.  Her surviving siblings include: sisters Sr. Jeanne Voges, OSB of Beech Grove, IN, Kathy Peabody of Dallas, TX, and brothers Hubert “Junie” and Jim Voges, both of Tell City, IN. She is preceded in death by other siblings: Rev. Bernard F. Voges, Alice Wahl, Alberta “Butchie” Vieck, and David Voges, and grandson Jacob.

Visitation will be at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Evansville (2301 N. Stockwell Rd) on Wednesday, January 31st from 3:00 – 7:00 pm with a Vigil Service at 7:00 pm.  Visitation will continue at St. Paul in Tell City at 9:00 am on Thursday, February 1. The Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11:00 am.

Donations can be made to Our Lady of Grace Monastery, 1402 Southern Ave, Beech Grove, IN or to St. Paul Catholic Church, 824 Jefferson, Tell City, IN.

The family would like to thank the staff at The Good Samaritan Home/Pathways II, as well as, the staff at St. Vincent’s Medical Center.

 

Arcbishop Etienne

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Bridgett Berger • 6 months ago

Our condolences from the Berger's at St. Mark's. Daryl, Bridgett, Ryan & Olivia

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Rev. John Candido Rodriguez • 6 months ago

May she rest in peace. What a beautiful family.

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David Watts • 6 months ago

Sending peace, Paul. We sure loved Kay. She was a sweet, gentle, kind person who raised an amazing family. We know how difficult these last few years have been for your Dad. We'll keep your Mom, as well as you and the whole Etienne clan in our prayers.

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Eva Corsaro • 6 months ago

Thanks for posting the faith-filled memories of your mom and family. Prayers for you and your family during this time. God Bless.

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Dennis W Voges • 6 months ago

Paul, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in our prayers at this time. Peace, Dennis Voges

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Peggy Bergsrud • 6 months ago

May the angels lead your mother into paradise, and may, through the mercy of God, she rest in peace. Please be assured you and your family are in my prayers.

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Martha Wilder • 6 months ago

Your Mim sounds like an amazing woman! Praying for the repose of her soul, and for you and all your family.

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Debbie Feix • 6 months ago

So very sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family.

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Fr. Joseph F. Connolly, T.O.R. • 6 months ago

To be with Mary, the mother of the first Priest, what a joy.

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Kathy (Winchell) Fazio • 6 months ago

A very sweet message, Paul. I loved your family as well, you all were always so fun to be around. Love and Prayers and Peace, Kathy

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Ulrike Johnson • 6 months ago

Prayers for you and your family may you find comfort and peace!

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Mary Leisch • 6 months ago

I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Mary Leisch. Rock Springs, WY

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Jodi Wilber • 6 months ago

So much love from her and for her and each of you all. Continued prayers for you all and forever in our hearts.

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LeRoy & Susan Arguello • 6 months ago

Thoughts and prayers for the family

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Shirley Casebolt • 6 months ago

Prayers for you and your family. She was a very special person. I always will remember her kind words and the way she made you feel welcome.

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Teri Perez • 6 months ago

God bless you Archbishop Etienne and your family. You and your family are in my prayers.

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Carol And Ed Johnson • 6 months ago

Your Mom was one terrific lady and a very cheerful and joy-filled person! Our prayers and love are with you and your family. May she Rest In Peace.

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Mandie Bergman • 6 months ago

What a beautiful soul! I can feel the love for her through your lovely words and photos. My heart is with all of you at this precious and difficult time.

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Annette Vassilo • 6 months ago

So glad you were home to be with your Mom and family. She was a very special lady and Mom for sure. Heaven is rejoicing! Love you all!

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Holly Stabile • 6 months ago

My family and I are blessed to have been graced with the opportunity to have your Mother touch our lives with her loving, laughing and open arms. I remember her smile and hugs so well. My memories of her and of your family during our time in Tell City and after remain a source of joy and always will. I know she is in a good place. Your words say it all. Love ,. Holly

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Jenny Richter • 6 months ago

The small consolation in her passing is that she is free from all ailments. Fly high free spirit, our Lord's pearly gates are welcoming you! Love and peace to the entire Etienne family.

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Christine Riggle Pyle • 6 months ago

Your mom was a very amazing woman! Sending prayers of strength, peace and love to you and your family.

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Edna and Chad Resari • 6 months ago

Please accept our sympathy at the passing of your mother, peace and prayers,

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Lucia Kieu • 6 months ago

A deep sympathy to you and your family, Archbishop! May your mom Rest In Peace!

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Mary Phillips • 6 months ago

Your mother was the kind of Mother every child should have. I had the honor of teaching three of her children, Rick, Nicolette and Angie. She was a room mother and very involved in her children's education and activities. She taught religion classes at St. Paul School. Our parish of St. Paul enjoyed her beautiful music. Our parish was very blessed to have your family as members and the many talents they shared with us. Many blessings and prayers to your family at this time and always. She will be forever in our hearts.

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Mary Phillips • 6 months ago

Your mother had the most beautiful smile. She made you feel good when you were around her. Prayers and sympathy to your family.

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Joann White • 6 months ago

Thank you, Archbishop Paul, for sharing so much of your wonderful mother in the blog you so lovingly wrote. Eternal rest grant unto her and peace be with you and all your family.

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Angie Dolan • 6 months ago

What a beautiful tribute to your beautiful mother. She has such a beautiful family to carry on the love and faith that she brought to them and so many others.

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Denise Luckett • 6 months ago

Thank you for sharing such a loving tribute to such a deserving woman.. Your mother's love story and legacy live on in you and your amazing family. God's peace and strength to you all.

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Brad Varner • 6 months ago

Great story/message. The pictures were fun to see. My prayers are with all the Etienne's at this time. Mrs. Etienne was a special lady. My parents really enjoyed being their neighbors and friends.

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Jerry Finn • 6 months ago

Sending prayers to all the Etienne Family. What a wonderful lady she was. She was the Queen of Hospitality.

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Rudy • 6 months ago

That is a wonderful tribute, and she clearly lived a heroic Christian life. Requiescat in pace, and may angel choirs welcome her on the far side of Jordan.

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Br. Peter Nault, C.S.C. • 6 months ago

It is always difficult to say good-bye to a parent no matter what the circumstances. May your mom rest in peace and your family find consolation in the Risen Christ.

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Larry & Joyce Holub • 6 months ago

Deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family. She was a special person and was blessed with a wonderful family. Peace and Prayers.

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Steve and Anne Wessel • 6 months ago

Dear Bishop Paul, Beautiful lady, beautiful family. Our hearts and prayers go out to you! God bless you and give you peace.

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Bob and Debbie Leclere • 6 months ago

We will always remember how Aunt Kay could light up any room she walked into. All our love and prayers.

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Pat Sherwood • 6 months ago

Oh what a wonderful gift that you were able to be there at this beautiful time! God is good!!!

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Josephine Kelly Cadwallader • 6 months ago

My what a gift that God is receiving back to Him, What a gift that HE sent to all of you so sorry for your loss Prayers to you and your family.

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Theresa • 6 months ago

May she Rest In Peace. Thank you for sharing these beautiful pictures and the great blessing your mom was to so many in life. Your mom and your family will remain in our prayers.

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Lisa Wardle • 6 months ago

Archbishop Etienne....May God hold you and your family always in the palm of His hand. May your Mom rest in eternal peace. Rejoice, for she has seen the face of God!

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Wayne Kleaving • 6 months ago

We are so sorry about the loss of your mother. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. Wayne, Donna and Travis Kleaving

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John Vijil • 6 months ago

Our condolences to Sister Nicolette and the family. She is at peace.

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Marlene Kunkler • 6 months ago

What a woman! What a wife! What a family! And now one less here on earth but one in heaven who will pray for us.

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Wanda Cronin Klueh and husband Raphael. • 6 months ago

Extending my most sincere sympathy to all the family upon your loss. Kay was my very best friend at St Paul's School. She was a very special person.

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Kathleen Williams • 6 months ago

Dear Archbishop, I am beyond words for your loss. As you know, your mother is in a beautiful place. But to those left behind the grief is like a piece of us is just not there anymore. I pray your time with your family is filled with great love and blessings as you remember your precious mother and allow those memories to comfort the empty space in your heart.

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Ann Motycka Skvara and thw whole Skvara family • 6 months ago

We are sorry for this loss to all of you. We pray that you will still feel her loving arms around you when you need it in years to come. I feel certain she looks down at all of you with love and pride.

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Margaret Daly Heatwole • 6 months ago

How Divine Providence works, that you were there when your beloved Mother went to her Heavenly Home. Sounds like an amazing woman. Indeed sorry for your loss, dear Archbishop. You are in our hearts and prayers.

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Barbara klein • 5 months ago

i and my husband were privileged to be able to celebrate your mother's life at the funeral Mass as choir members from Holy Rosary. We were so honored to be a part of such a beautiful liturgy, which I'm sure your mother enjoyed too. You, Fr. Bernie, Fr. Zach and your brother and sisters have our deepest sympathy. Your family is very special and Fr. Bernie is so very special to us. God bless you all as you come to terms with your loss.

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